No Angel


A couple of days ago I’ve posted on Instagram my views on beauty and what it means to me. Little did I know of the outpouring love I would receive from all of you. I have mentioned this before but it’s quite refreshing to share our voice in an empowering way. There are so many stereotypes and societal expectations surrounding beauty and intelligence – expectations that make people believe that a beautiful person cannot be intelligent and that intelligent people aren’t attractive.

“I hate to hear you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives.”  ― Jane Austen, Persuasion

Growing up, because I was a straight-A student, no one expected me to wear stylish clothes or be attractive in general. But I loved fashion. I did dress up for school. And for that I was bullied. You simply were not allowed to be smart and pretty, whatever “pretty” means. The beauty standard has changed over the years and yet as a woman we still feel pressured to look a certain way in order to be “pretty”. I want to break this barrier and tell you that YOU are beautiful. What truly matters is your heart. And you know what?! The best, most feminist thing that we can do is to love ourselves just as we are and refuse to let anyone profit off of our insecurities.


So, I am no angel. I refuse to be labeled as anything. I am who I am. I’m confident, I’m ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If this makes me no angel, well, I am OK with that.

“I would like to be known as an intelligent woman, a courageous woman, a loving woman, a woman who teaches by being.”
—Maya Angelou



  1. December 7, 2018 / 1:52 AM

    I love the incredible message that your putting out there, Vanessa! Sending love from Canada! Merci for sharing <3

    Xoxo, Annie |

  2. December 7, 2018 / 5:25 AM

    Such a positive post ! Thanks a lot for sharing your views on beauty, and I have to say, I couldn’t agree more! I wish the general society view of beauty could evolve a little in that direction, I mean, maybe it is, but it’s going very slowly. So thank you for sharing that on your instagram, I hope a lot of people read it and I hope it helps a few of them feel a little bit better, even if it’s just for one day !

  3. Cora
    December 7, 2018 / 5:27 AM

    Very well said Babe…
    Have a nice weekend…

  4. jenniferpickering22gmailcom
    December 7, 2018 / 7:53 AM

    I was the same as you in school. I loved clothes and I would dress up as well and stand out from the rest!

    Effortlessly Sophisticated

  5. December 7, 2018 / 1:52 PM

    Such a lovely post V!! Important and empowering with the message and couldn’t agree more. Women are allowed to be whatever they want to, not bound by societal demands or expectations! Xx

  6. Angela
    December 7, 2018 / 2:49 PM

    Awesome post Vanessa! I am loving that pic in the bath tub – so very chic. I agree with this completely – I have 3 degrees, but constantly have to prove myself because I’m seen as “the girl that likes fashion” and therefore people think you are frivolous. It can be frustrating to break stereotypes. But like you said – go on loving yourself anyways!

    Angela |

  7. Pearls
    December 7, 2018 / 8:15 PM

    Very sexy 🔝

  8. December 8, 2018 / 12:44 AM

    I love that you received a ton of support. I can’t believe you were bullied for being smart and pretty… Seriously?? Often times, it’s because you set the bar. Be your best self :).

    Nancy ♥

  9. December 9, 2018 / 11:45 AM

    so much positive vibes through this post. love this. so inspiring and motivating. as usual you are great

  10. polarbearstyle
    December 12, 2018 / 5:14 AM

    This is a great post. Women do tend to get stereotyped a lot of the time. If we look a certain way, some people assume we have a certain personality and have accomplished (or didn’t) certain things in our lives. Thanks for sharing your positive outlook.

    Kathrin | Polar Bear Style

  11. December 13, 2018 / 3:23 PM

    love this so inspiring and motivating as usual you are great. Thanks for inspiring.

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