Why We Should Seek Happiness Even in Hard Times


It seems we are deluged by bad-news stories while trying to stay positive during the pandemic. The last three months have been challenging so, it’s hard to not feel discouraged or even depressed. And while I must admit that I had to learn to navigate through this new normal myself, from home schooling my son to adjusting to a new work/life balance—I just kept thinking about happiness in its deepest sense.

While my family and I were self-quarantining I couldn’t help but have an appreciation for life in itself, with all of its mystery and difficult changes. Sounds strange, right? But here’s the thing: My family and I are healthy and we are together. There is inevitably suffering in every human life. Hence we must cultivate and develop a sense of well-being, joy, deep happiness, and worth, even amidst the difficulties of life. If there’s one thing I’ve learned during the pandemic is this: We have nothing under control, nothing insulates us from bad things.

So why should we seek happiness even in hard times?

Because we all need more love in this world and I’m not talking about superficial connections. We need more care and real connections. Our media and our news tend to focus on the problems—a bombing, an earthquake, a murder, or a conflict—but these are actually anomalies. Each time there is a bad piece of news that gets publicized, there are 100 million acts of goodness that happen in that same hour—hence make it a habit to fill your your brain with positive information/news and  your heart with positive people. Always remember especially during these difficult times: There are always birds in the sky, and the dazzling display of clouds, weather, blueness, and stars that meets our uplifted eyes. How can we not see the mystery of incarnation and appreciate life?

This being said—grab a friend and share a laugh. Run barefoot on the beach. Smile. Breathe. Life is and always will be beautiful.





“All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the object to which we are attached by love.” – Baruch Spinoza



  1. Sarah
    June 16, 2020 / 11:08 PM

    This such a beautifully written post, Vanessa! You are such a rare soul. You’ve been my favorite blogger for years and not just for your fashion but for you intellect and heart. Also, I’m so glad you’re back!! We’ve all missed you!

  2. Cora
    June 17, 2020 / 2:14 AM

    Love your beautiful message…Yes, we are the one entitled to our happiness…We can be happy to this hardtime, sorroundings with our love ones and friends…

  3. jenniferpickering22gmailcom
    June 17, 2020 / 6:52 AM

    I love this! Yes terrible things are happening but so many good things are also happening around the world.

    Effortlessly Sophisticated

  4. Simone
    June 17, 2020 / 2:01 PM

    I love your positive way of thinking! Happiness can be found even in the smallest things and we should concentrate on these. Too many bad things happen these days in our world, you get lost very easily.

    xx Simone
    Little Glittery Box

  5. June 17, 2020 / 3:09 PM

    Such a beautiful message! You have such a pure heart. It all times, there are things to look forward to. Quarantine has taught me to be reflective and appreciate what I have and not take them for granted, no matter how small they are.
    Thank you for writing such a beautiful post!
    I wish you all the best that this month has to offer!


  6. Sonia Aicha
    June 17, 2020 / 6:14 PM

    so well written, totally agree with you and I sincerely hope this post covid19 life will be all about care and real connections.
    Thanks for sharing such an inspiring post,

  7. Janet Harrison
    June 17, 2020 / 9:08 PM

    I love your positivity Vanessa! I do agree with you, these times have been so hard with such an unease in the world right now. I think it is so important for our mental well being to find joy in the little things in life, particularity right now. We need more love, kindness and empathy in this world. Stay safe lovely xx

  8. June 17, 2020 / 10:31 PM

    I think it’s difficult but definitely necessary to try to seek happiness in dark times. <3 Thanks, dear.

  9. June 18, 2020 / 12:00 PM

    Ah well said. This can be challenging and sadly easier said then done. For many people the pandemic is just having to spend more time at home and for many of these people their places they have to shelter in place are roomy, bright and beautifully designed. They have their family around them and do not have to worry about an income. But for others who live pay check to pay check, or who were laid off before the pandemic, or lost family members to the pandemic it is not that easy to just be happy. I think too that the media is not really portraying the true impact of the pandemic. It is just a number reported on the news. They have no problem showing people on ventilators and mass graves and even funerals from OTHER COUNTRIES. But they almost never show this with American victims. I think this is leading partly to people being reckless etc. But yes just talking with a friend can help. Or going for a walk with a neighbor…with mask of course.

    Allie of

  10. June 19, 2020 / 8:41 PM

    What beautiful pics! I agree, even in bad times like we have lately it’s important to try stay positive and find something to make us smile and laugh – I think kids are so good at doing that, keeping us in the moment! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Hope that you are having a nice weekend ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. makeupmuddle
    June 21, 2020 / 12:54 PM

    Great post! I always try and have a glass have full approach to life, so I like trying to look for the happy and positives during hard times xo

    Makeup Muddle

  12. June 21, 2020 / 3:08 PM

    This is such a beautiful post Vanessa! <3 I have definitely found myself feeling more depressed and sad because of all the news. I have been trying to take more action to be more anti-racist so that I feel that I'm taking action and I'm also trying to work meditation back into my daily routine. I hope you are doing well!


  13. June 22, 2020 / 9:38 AM

    Love the positive thinking! Difficult to do but we still need to be grateful for what we have and find something to make us happy xo hope you’re staying safe and healthy! x

    olivia | https://amolivia.com

  14. June 22, 2020 / 2:20 PM

    I absolutely agree with you. There is always something we can feel grateful for. We’re not helping anyone by being sad and miserable for them. Yes, there is much suffering in the world right now and it is impossible to ignore it. At the same time, I agree we should look for happiness and things to be grateful for.
    I love your ‘happy’ photos. Great beach outfits and looks. You’re such a ray of sunshine V!

  15. June 23, 2020 / 6:00 AM

    Beautiful thoughts and insights… we surely must seek hapiness even in the difficult times … lovely post and pictures… thanks for sharing dear ๐Ÿ™‚
    Beauty and fashion/Rampdiary

  16. June 23, 2020 / 9:43 AM

    These sunny pics put such a smile on my face – love the happy vibes! And I agree, it’s so important to find positivity during difficult times…yes, be aware of problems etc. but drowning in that reduces productiivity, affects sleep, the mind… and it’s a downward spiral…it’s great to have you as one of my digital boosters and I’m happy that you and yours are well. Xx

  17. Ashley | Make Life Marvelous
    June 25, 2020 / 6:10 PM

    Love this, friend! You are spot on. We have to be the light and look for the light even in the most difficult times.

    Make Life Marvelous

  18. June 26, 2020 / 1:28 PM

    I agree! We need to strive for happiness, and right now that is mor important than ever. Beautiful post!


  19. August 17, 2020 / 12:05 AM

    You are looking so gorgeous in this outfit. Thanks

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